On est seul~
That’s how it is~
In the end, one can sort of… only trust or rely on oneself, most of the time…
Family? Does the true meaning of that really exist¿
Acquaintances. What can one expect from them and strangers, eh?
And the same goes for everything else and people~ Besides why should one burden another or truly rely in critical times on another~
Nationalistic scale?
Malaysia doesn’t want ex-malaysians and it’s a muslim country =P
China? As if they ever cared for the people (especially after Mao Zedung era) or those descendants of the ones chased away and stripped of property and etc. Especially those not speaking the main language or the few accepted dialects.
And other nations? In the end you have another skin colour and squinty eyes~ No matter what official documents.
That is how it is~
Actually…one cannot ever rely on other in critical times. One need to deal with whatever critical all by him/herself. No one can ‘help’ you.
I read an article the other day about a research that was done among rats for the effects of being alone or with another when dealing with lifechanging/hurtfull happenings. It apears the rats that had to do it alone, handled it and recovered (they still had the ability to learn). The ones in pairs didn’t handle it and ‘hang’ in the situation (they loose the ability to learn because of relying on another one, while the other one was ‘frozen’ by seeing the one in that situation)
So, yeah, according to this research, you are best of by having to deal with things on your own.
This time I have to agree with you…
Although that does not mean that deep friendships or familybonds are worthless to me
But hey, we cannot all think alike 
April 8th, 2008 at 3:25 pmProblems and critical things can differ greatly for every person and err rat >_>
Also what that deep friendship and family bonds entitle to some people <_< I’m sure I want some of them deep bonds~ Maybe not. *Eyes a lot of peeps* One’s interpretation and expectations are different.
How much would some truly give, sacrifice for the/one other. Financial, emotional, physical… Freedoms, liberties other maybe take for granted or not think about?
Some would break those deep bonds and or have attempted/initiated such, but luckily the other end of the bonds didn’t find out…
And does one know their and other’s boundaries~
April 8th, 2008 at 10:28 pmYou can only know as much as the other person is willing to show. Whether it’s family or friends is irrelevant, it’s the people that make the bond and define it’s strength, regardless of origin.
I don’t think one is alone, but it depends on the people around you and the experiences you’ve had. I’ve met a lot of people over the years who said they were true friends but when push comes to shove they’re nowhere to be seen. And then there’s others who are always there for me. Of course those are a lot rarer.
But what happens when the shit hits the fan is always a mystery, simply because a lot of people cave under pressure.
The nationalistic scale is simply the same thing but on a greater scale, plus when people are able to hide in a crowd a lot of pleasantries are lost and all civilization goes p00f with a lot of them.
But it’s all down to the individuals involved in the end, and seeing as that’s different for everyone I don’t think you can generalize.
April 9th, 2008 at 10:44 amWell, I have to agree with X as far as it is people that define the bond. I accidently have a really tight bond with my sister, but not because she is my sister but because she is who she is, a true friend. And I have a true friend that feels like a brother, so you don’t need to be born in the same family for that kind of bonding
As far as the alone part goes; true, you can only know as much as the other one is willing to show. However, I experienced that in the end all the other one can do is lent you an ear and then they try to give you advise that is not welcome at that moment but meant well. In the end, it is you that has to do the whole accept/recover/whatever path. Frankly, there was only 1 person in the whole dad-lost fase that was truly there for me and even did not give ‘crapy’, meant well advise, but actually gave me advice that helped me a lot (I am forever grateful)
Next to that, people tend to have a whole range of expectations towards the other one to which the other one will or cannot comply. But I learned through the years that you tend to surround you with people that think the same way about that kind of things. And as long as people are honest with eachother, no expectations can exsist that aren’t supposed to be there. I think that’s the problem for the many..being truly honest with eachother. When you find that, keep it close..
Yes, true, you can never tell how someone is going to react when the shit hits the fan, even when you think you know someone…
And generalize things is never good, is it?
April 9th, 2008 at 1:09 pm~
Some things will never be known or shared (^OO)>
But one is an echo~
Masses are dumb~
Perhaps all is down to individuals, but there aren’t many different types of those in behaviourness anyway~ “Good/accepted/few different” be too rare~ Generalization of some things be mighty true~ Especially when it comes to moneys ~(oo~)
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Some words can be said at the right times by some peeps. But not referring to that or only absolutely needing that~
April 9th, 2008 at 3:08 pmYes, we know, that you have many you consider to have good bonds with
Expectations told or even untold can make a difference of… how big a bastard one is
Not everyone can surround with the same type of people. I cannot say the few I know are the same type at all. I bet when I ever mix mine, they be totally bored and annoyed.
I always expect and demand a lot, you just don’t know =P But I know what I can expect of people.
Yes…, if all can be truly honest to all and on everything…
Emotions make people react different… plus their experiences, yes.
And generalize things is never good? But it does apply to a lot of those annoying peeps. (Referring to Chinese)
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Sometimes I can’t follow you completely with all the strange ~ thingies in your posts
But I don’t have that many I have good bonds with. Looks like it sometimes, maybe
But I don’t. Besides Croga, there are only 2 
Well, just expect nothing, that way the expectations the other one might have, are coming from nowhere. At least you didn’t feed those. And that way, the other one simply can’t expect anything in return. But they often do and that’s the whole problem
And thus, dealing with persons like them is so much easier and more comfortable.
I don’t expect a lot, although I used to in the past, but learned by dealing with persons like Croga and X that things are made much simpler when you don’t.
Honesty, yes, that’s a whole different ball game. I often come across people that for some reason are not (because they think they have to make up things to appear more interesting, because they are asamed or simply because they like lying and can’t help themselves) I simply avoid those and sometimes, out of curiousity, confront them with their behaviour. That gave me some good laughs now and then
Ah well, people are what and who they are, you can’t change that, so just make sure you surround yourself with those that accept you as you for who you are and respect you. Then all will be good
April 11th, 2008 at 8:28 am