I will honestly admit I ate ALL the choccies X bought me yesterday. They were so good. I almost forgot how good Dutch chocolate is. I kept the box it came in *stores away where everyone can see it* X, you’ve been so wonderful to me. I know things have been an uphill battle for us lately with all that’s happened last year but you’ve really been the sweetest.
Oh yeah, what did everyone else do for Valentine’s Day?
Have you ever been with someone you absolutely loved to be with and possibly even loved only to get the cold shoulder? Say it’s going out for a night with the person and this person is coming onto you strongly. Flirting with you relentlessly or dancing with you a certain way. With everything looking up, you find yourself confessing your love for them or something more subtle like trying to ask them out on a next date, they push you away by saying ‘Let’s just be friends.’
My question is: Why?
How painful I imagine it would be to love for many years then being made to feel like you’re nothing to the one you loved in the end. In films and books, it’s so wonderful and uplifting to hear of those who stay with that person to the end. I think ‘Wow, this person really does love the other. I hope I would be the same exact way if something like that happened.’ But I imagine actually going through it instead of dreaming it is something completely different. How horrible it would be to be accused by your partner of sleeping with someone behind their back. How devastated and miserable that would make you feel. Even more painful because their tenacity in believing it no matter what you say. Perhaps even being argued with all the time for no reason. The person you loved for the longest time and had such great memories with hating you to the core for things you never fathomed doing before. But it doesn’t matter because their mental state of being is persistently telling them that you’re no good.
Then after a while, you begin to believe yourself to be that horrible person and even contemplate doing something to make yourself feel better. Even if it meant finding security in someone else’s arms for a night.
So for everyone that reads this: Honestly think about this and decide where you would draw the line. When would their banter be enough?
http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1704355,00.html
I read this interesting article and it made me think why I love the way I do and what gets me going in all aspects possible in a relationship. Is sex and attraction only this (almost pessimistic but) animalistic desire or could it possibly be more?
“…studies of some of those stubbornly loving pairs, and initial results show that their brains indeed look very much like those of people newly in love, with all the right regions lighting up in all the right ways. “We wondered if they were really feeling these things,” Aron says. “But it looks like this is really happening.”
I want that. What’s going to happen in 50 years? Is being a stubbornly loving pair something you can will into a relationship or something that only happens to a few select couples?
