Jun
24
Emigration / immigration
Now here’s a little puzzle which has been keeping me up late.
Person A loves person B. The feeling’s mutual. A is pregnant by B, which makes them both happy. A is American, B is Dutch. However, A is technically still married (although seperated) to C, who is an obsessive abusive asshole who refuses a divorce. He’ll lose in the end of course, but for now we have a problem because due to lovely immigration laws in the US as well as in the Netherlands this would mean A & B can’t be together. Which is even worse given said pregnancy. Suggestions?
Thoughts of Imbalanced Mind
Kill C, take all of said person’s money, run away and live happily ever after?
other than uprooting B and moviig to the U.S., I think the only thing B can do is fight it out in the courts with A over C. I don’t know what it takes to be a citizen in the Netherlands, but maybe getting A down that path is also a possibility (takes some time to become a U.S. citizen). Also, you may want to check out what a VISA can do for either A or B in either country to if there’s anything about marriage and all that. It looks like some decision making has to be made if this is going to be settled in the short term, otherwise it can waited out it looks like (even though it’ll take some years to sort).
I seconded paranoidandroids suggestion xD
Not really, the A still being married to C is the big problem. Else B could marry A in Belgium or Germany and A will become a european citizen and in time move to the Netherlands.
I do not know if proof of being in a divorce makes a difference in either country?
Getting a workrelated visa isn’t an option either seeing as A is pregnant.
Becoming an American citizen is as hard as becoming a Dutch citizen, maybe even harder.
Though situation, in all the ways you can look at it…
Best option? Trying to force that divorce being done as soon as possible, but that’s easier said then done…
What letter does baby get? B.2?
A and B will be together soon with B.2.
A will be sure to look at everything possible just for B.
How long will the courts or whatnot take over it, and would A have to be there at the time?
Do they do temporary/visitor VISAs in the Netherlands? It might not be as long as desired but for a short term solution while you try to get something else worked out, if you haven’t already done that and can’t do it again. Or person A could visit later for particular timing if the temporary VISA runs out in so many months.
Perhaps contacting VISA or whichever office is responsible will highlight more options? The citizen’s advice or whatever equivilent in A’s country where the legal proceedings are taking place, might be able to advise on speeding up the court case or avoiding complications that might arise from B.2, since technically A is still married to C.
If A would not be employed (or could take large amounts of time off) and the funds are available, could she ‘holiday’ for a couple of weeks/months at a time as a compromise? Or B could visit around certain times if A would have to stay home for the health/hospital side if she can’t do that in the Netherlands since she wouldn’t be legally living there.
If A isn’t planning on working…why not try and enroll at a university? You would be able to get a student visa and by living with B throughout the duration, you’d meet the criteria required to marry.
Of course it is a long time since any of this was an issue for me but I can remember what a pain in the butt the EU can be about these things.
^ I’ve thought about that but with A being pregnant it’s a fat chance to either enroll in uni or to stay there. And if she can’t; no visa me thinks.
With the way things seem to be developing at the moment uprooting B and moving to the US is getting more and more likely.
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